Harry is our discrete garbage can and is connected with an instant garbage collection service.
(Klick at "Harry" and write an email)
Freak out! Curse! Nag, nag, nag! Forget "be a lady". Just let it out, let it go. In a language of your choice. Write everything down. Even if it's only a single word, e.g. the f-word. Everything that makes your female expat life more difficult and is not welcome anymore.
Nobody cares about misspelling or design.
Throw it away! Give it to Harry!
What's gone, it's gone.
You're welcome. :-)